What is Self-Care?

Self-care has become a buzzword on the internet and across social media platforms. Google’s formal definition states, “the practice of taking an active role in protecting one's well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress.” Self-care is vital during moments of stress. However, creating purposeful rituals is most helpful when they are established before those periods of stress. Have you ever heard the phrase, you can’t pour from an empty cup? Well, someone once told me, the truth is hidden behind the word cliché.

You might envision self-care to be a day at the nail salon with a mimosa in hand, a pizza night streaming your favorite show, or taking a lavish beach vacation. Can those things be considered enjoyable and a way to decompress? Absolutely. Self-care is so much more than that though. It is meant to be intentional, and supports your overall well-being in a variety of ways. I often discuss it with clients as multiple buckets that you continuously pour into. Read on for the five buckets of self-care that I have categorized.

Physical: Fuel the endorphins with a HIIT workout, yoga, or walks around the park. Then drop that into your physical self-care bucket! It is not just about routine exercise though. Physical self-care can include your annual doctor visits, the nutrition you feed your body, and a good night's rest.

Mental: Take a break from the day-to-day by gently exercising your mind. Schedule just 5 minutes of book time before bed. Pull out a 1,000 piece puzzle, or challenge yourself with a daily Wordle puzzle.

Emotional: Connecting with your emotional world is vital. Consider a check-in with reflective journaling. There are great journal prompts online to support this. Write a few on a sticky note, place them into a jar, and pull one out a few times a week. Now this might be a given, but therapy! Are you anxious about a presentation? Talk to your therapist, and build out a cope-ahead strategy. Therapy is an hour a week dedicated just for you.

Relational: Find ways to connect regularly with the ones you feel supported by. Set a reminder on your phone to call one person every Friday afternoon. Attend a community event like a block party with your partner. Pick out an organization or social cause, and find ways to support it. Find a conversation starter card deck, and pull them out during a family dinner. These are just a few ways you can deepen and expand your relationships.

Spiritual: For some it can be a religious practice like prayer, or readings. However, spirituality can also be defined by activities that help nurture your spirit. Things that help you connect to your physical self. A mindful walk around the park engaging your senses, or a meditative yoga flow. A visit to a forest preserve with no technology. Identify what will help you step away from that monkey mind, and connect within.

Additional Resources: A highly recommended TedTalk by Portia Jackson-Preston.

Portia Jackson-Preston Discusses the Missing Ingredient in Self-Care