American society is divided and polarized in our beliefs and perspectives, now more than ever. This can present unique challenges around connecting with others who we may not view as “like us” in our thought processes or belief systems, and this isolation can negatively impact our mental health. In this blog post, we’ll explore how to find community in a divided world, and why community is so important to our mental well-being.
Americans Feel Divided, Even in Their Own Communities
If you live in the U.S. right now, you’ve probably noticed the division and polarization happening in society right now, so this data may come as no surprise: Americans are less likely than people abroad to feel close to others in their country and community, according to a 2023 Pew Research Center survey of 24 nations. Even fewer Americans feel close to people in their local community: 54% feel a connection to others near them, compared with a median of 78% of adults across all 24 countries.
When there are differences among people which cause conflict, it is typically recommended that we name and talk about the differences in order to facilitate better understanding of each others’ perspectives; however, when talking about the issue doesn’t lead to better understanding or gaining a sense of empathy for someone else, we can feel even more isolated and alone.
What is Community?
Our sense of community can be broken down into four elements:
Membership defines who is in the community and who is out. It shows that people value the sense of belonging which comes with being identified as a member. Fan clubs are an extreme example of the power of membership and are often characterized by symbols of membership such as badges and t-shirts. A professional association, another example of a community of practice, might have formal membership requirements such as fees and exams before you can join.
Influence is the notion that “my voice counts.” When you speak, others listen and often act on your advice.
Fulfillment of needs – people belong to communities to satisfy one or more needs. In a community of practice, a common need is to get better at one’s job or profession.
Emotional connection includes shared history, shared participation, and identification with that history, and a deeply felt connection between members. It is the most nebulous aspect of our sense of community, but still very important.
(Source: Sense of Community: A Definition and Theory, David W. McMillan and David M. Chavis, Journal of Community Psychology, Volume 14, 1986)
It’s clear from data like that of the Pew Research study that for most Americans, one or more of these four elements are missing from our sense of community within our communities. Why we feel that way is a topic of much debate (and we won’t get to the bottom of it in this blog post), but regardless, the lack of community can have adverse mental health outcomes.
How Lack of Community Impacts Mental Health
As humans, we are wired to need interpersonal connection in order to survive. Community is an essential part of our health, both mental and physical.
According to a National Institute of Health study (2023), compared with those who report a positive sense of community, those with a negative sense of community had significantly higher odds of reporting depression, anxiety and stress symptoms.
Without a more defined sense of community, we can often put more stress on our interpersonal relationships or our job to give us all of the connection and fulfillment that we need, leading to greater stress and interpersonal conflict.
What We Can Do to Rebuild Our Sense of Community
Given the state of the world and American society right now, it’s more important than ever to try and rebuild a sense of community, for our own sake as well as others, hopefully with a ripple effect of healing our broader sense of division and isolation as a country.
Here are some steps you can take to rebuild community in your own life:
Try to find a group of like minded people with whom you can interact regularly in person. To fulfill our need for connection and membership in a group, it is essential to have friends, colleagues, or others who share values and interests and with whom you can interact with regularly IRL, or offline.
Limit social media usage and engaging in online debates that can lead to more anger, hatred, and tendency toward bias. Besides, when has arguing online ever led to a productive conversation or someone changing their mind?
Engage in an activity that benefits others and is meaningful to you. This doesn’t have to be political, and even if you aren’t able to do it as regularly as you’d like to, it can still help you rebuild a sense of influence, or ability to create positive change, which is key to your sense of community.
Avoiding divisive topics, while generally discouraged, is sometimes necessary to maintain your own boundaries and mental health (i.e., not getting into a political debate with family on a holiday, colleagues at work, or among friends with whom you share a hobby.) Focusing on what you share in common is key to building community, and building trust and vulnerability with people so that tough conversations don’t feel so fraught.
Prioritize your values and regularly do things that work towards your values. This can help with many aspects of finding community, from finding fulfillment, to connecting with others who are like-minded. Whether it’s participating in a park cleanup day because you value environmental causes, or volunteering at a food bank because you’re concerned about inequality, it’s important to find ways to align your actions with your values and connect with others who are doing the same.
We’re in This Together
You don’t have to cope with feelings of isolation alone. It’s an incredibly difficult time in our country, and there are plenty of reasons to feel worried, angry, scared, and even distrustful. If you’re feeling disconnected from community and it’s impacting your mental health, our team at ECC is here to help. We'll match you with the right therapist and therapy approach to help you process your feelings and experiences, and strategize ways to connect with others in fulfilling ways.
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