*Content Note: This post will mention sensitive topics such as suicidal ideation, self-harm, and invasive thoughts.
Do you ever feel like managing emotional dysregulation is a full-time job? Like your emotions are running the show, and it’s hard to function or focus on anything else? When tricky situations happen and the emotions feel overwhelming, do you resort to behaviors you know are harmful, such as cutting, binge-eating, or drinking? If you’ve suffered a serious loss or trauma, or you’re experiencing acute depression or anxiety, Dialectical Behavior Therapy is a method that might help you tolerate stress with healthy habits and access emotional equilibrium.
What is Dialectical Behavior Therapy?
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is a type of talk therapy based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) that has been adapted for those who need help managing and regulating intense emotions. Unlike CBT which focuses on changing an individual’s thought patterns, DBT is focused on giving clients skills to manage their emotional dysregulation. DBT is especially effective for people of all ages who suffer from mood disorders such as depression and anxiety, severe PTSD, suicidal ideation, self-harm, substance abuse, disordered eating, or other issues.
Maladaptive coping skills like substance abuse and self-harm are forged from traumatic experiences when healthy coping skills (like talking to a safe adult) aren’t accessible. These maladaptive strategies may offer immediate relief by easing or numbing the emotional pain, but they also pose risks to a person’s emotional, mental, and physical health that further increase dysregulation. Oftentimes, clients want to end these maladaptive behaviors but need help replacing them with healthier coping mechanisms. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy is all about redirecting behavior to better manage emotional dysregulation through:
Acceptance of reality
Awareness of emotions
Healthier coping mechanisms, like mindfulness techniques
Two Things Can Be True
“Dialectical” refers to the act of accepting contradictory ideas. For example, someone who has a severe mood disorder can accept that their brain chemistry makes it difficult for them to feel safe and happy, while at the same time choosing to stop engaging in self-harm behaviors with help from a DBT therapist.
DBT is about “walking the middle path” between two things, i.e., building awareness of the emotions without acting on the impulses. Clients in DBT are coached on how to tolerate intense emotions and accept painful realities without engaging in maladaptive behaviors such as cutting or disordered eating.
Managing Dysregulation with Mindfulness
Of course, ending maladaptive behaviors isn’t as simple as stopping. We have to replace the maladaptive impulse with healthier skills that decrease emotional dysregulation. In Dialectical Behavior Therapy, therapists work with clients on mindfulness activities to help them ride the wave of discomfort without action or judgment. Many of these activities employ acronyms that are easy to recall in the middle of dysregulation, such as the STOP and RAIN methods.
The STOP mindfulness technique stands for:
Stop
Take a breath
Observe your thoughts and feelings
Proceed, i.e., return to what you were doing before you stopped, but with more awareness
The RAIN mindfulness technique stands for:
Recognize what’s happening in the moment
Allow the experience to exist just as it is
Investigate with interest and care
Nurture with self-compassion
The Benefits of DBT
Dialectical Behavior Therapy offers many benefits, whether its for individuals, couples, or families:
Greater self-awareness: individuals learn how to notice their emotions and identify cycles of self-harm.
Emotional resilience: clients can also learn to tolerate stress through mindfulness techniques, so that when difficult situations or emotions occur, they can stay present and emotionally regulate themselves.
Interpersonal effectiveness: in couples or group therapy settings, DBT gives clients the chance to practice communicating their emotions, slow down the conversation, and identify what’s important to say and how to say it, so that their needs are met.
Is DBT Right for Me?
As mentioned above, Dialectical Behavior Therapy can be applied in a variety of contexts, from individuals (including children) to couples and families. Here are a few signs that DBT might be right for you:
You find it hard to stay present when difficult emotions arise
You struggle with impulsive or compulsive behaviors when feeling overwhelmed
You have severe anxiety and depression
You have an eating disorder
You’re struggling with substance abuse
You’re struggling with suicidal ideation or intrusive thoughts
DBT Therapy in Chicago:
Suffering happens when we get stuck in a cycle trying to change something we can’t, but acceptance is a skill we can learn. Some things about our lives may always be painful or difficult, but through practicing acceptance and mindfulness, we can end cycles of self-harm and find emotional equilibrium. DBT can be a profound and transformative therapeutic experience that sets people on a path toward peace. If you’re curious about whether DBT is right for you, your child, or your family, reach out today. We’ll connect you with the therapist and therapeutic approach to help you thrive.
For more information about Dialectical Behavior Therapy, watch this video of ECC Founder Danielle Zawadski discussing it on PHTV4’s Living Well segment!
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