The five love languages originated from Dr. Gary Chapman in 1992. These languages are modalities of how we show or receive love and appreciation whether it’s towards our romantic partners, family, or friends. We as humans communicate differently and by understanding how others express love in a meaningful way, it helps us communicate and strengthen relationships by focusing on other’s needs rather than our own. Dr. Chapman developed 5 categories of love languages; Acts of Service, Gifts, Physical Touch, Quality Time, and Words of Affirmation.
Acts of Service
These acts of service are actions performed to show you care about the other person. Examples of this can include cleaning, running an errand, or folding laundry because you know your partner doesn’t do it. These acts of service are non-verbal affirmations to your loved one.
Gifts
Receiving gifts has been around throughout history. It's our way we show appreciation to our loved ones whether it's someone’s birthday and you get them that wallet they’ve always wanted, or Valentine’s day when people will buy cards, chocolates/candies, and flowers. It can be something simple as a note that shows you care and are thinking about that person.
Physical Touch
Physical touch is showing affection to your loved ones. Physical touch helps reaffirm you are not alone which we may often crave when feeling lost or lonely. This can mean hugging, holding hands, cuddling, or more intimate moments such as kissing and sexual intercourse.
Quality Time
Quality time often confuses many people as to how to define quality time. The simplest definition is when two people spend uninterrupted time together and are truly present together. This could be cooking meals together or engaging in conversation. With technology today, it’s important to put your phone away and not become distracted as this can cause your partner to feel unloved and ignored.
Words of Affirmation
This is the only Love Language that is based on verbal communication. Utilizing positive words and phrases to uplift your partner to compliment them is important. Usually they are able to encourage others and they hope that is reciprocated back to them.
Chapman, G. D. (2010). The 5 love languages: the secret to love that lasts. Chicago: Northfield Pub.