Imagine the first time a client enters a therapist's office, revealing years of self-medicating trauma and anxiety by way of alcohol and drugs. Shame hangs heavy in these moments, with the focus fixed solely on breaking free from dependence and addiction. Yet, as therapists, we are attuned to a deeper truth - that these problematic behaviors were once functional survival mechanisms, borne out of pain. The troublesome coping skills you are faced with today at one time served a crucial purpose.
New Year, New Regrets? How Examining Regret Can Propel You Forward
Coping With Being Single on Valentine's Day
As a wave of red and pink floods our storefronts, and Valentine's Day posts from your peers begin to take over your social media feed, these can be painful reminders of what we perceive as personal deficits in our lives. Even for those in relationships, Valentine’s Day can be a breeding ground for expectations, resentment, pressure, anger, and hurt. Here are some reminders as potentially complicated feelings come up around February 14th.
Building a Secure Attachment in Your Relationships
You might know about attachment styles, as it is now a widely discussed way of viewing relationships. Here is a little background if it is new to you though. Attachment theory focuses on bonds formed in relationships between people. This includes, but is not limited to, friendships, romantic relationships, polyamorous relationships, and even working relationships.
Healing From Heartbreak
The holidays are commonly a peak time for relationship endings. There are many reasons why that might be. Maybe you are examining the relationship from the past year. Maybe you see the commitment in spending the holiday together. Whatever the reason is, if you are hurting from a break up right now (no matter the season), we know how difficult it is.